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Move Over "Sorry"; "Thank You" Seems To Be The Hardest Words

6/18/2012

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And Now, a Poem...
  A little boosting now and then
  Is relished by most of men!
  No matter what your job may be
  If cutting hay or serving tea.
  From drafting laws to making shot-
  A little boost may mean a lot.
                                        J. Bateman

So I'm spending a couple of hours at a non-profit agency I work with an hour or so outside of Pittsbugh, having been asked to do a training session for their administrative/support staff and  customer service reps (CSRs). I don't know these CSRs.  My work with this agency has been with the Development Staff.

I walk around the room before the seminar, talking occasionally to the group's supervisor. And I kind of get this feeling I had a long time ago when, as an 8-year-old I "helped" my Dad in his store by proudly taking a hunting knife out of a case and showing it to a customer. He liked it but wasn't sure, so I promptly responded by saying "My Uncle Joe has a store just up the street and he has even cooler hunting knives...let me take you up to his store."

 And I did.

And he bought one there.

By the time I got back to my Dad's store, his expression told me that he already knew about his "lost sale."  I realized what I had done and waited for the scolding.

What I received, however, was PRAISE! Praise for being honest and did I ever feel good. (About three years later he began giving me sales lessons, which did not include escorting someone to your competitor.)

Now, back to that "feeling."

As I am putting this training session together, after spending some time there, my instincts tell me that these CSRs don't need to be trained as much as they need to be appreciated or to feel valued. They know what to do and how to do it by now, but they need an incentive, other than the easily spent dollar, to get them to do it. I change the agenda to focus on their positive contribution to the past campaign, their part in bringing in the increase and their value to the agency's mission.

As the session begins with this focus, I see immediately that they are energized, that they are on board and ready to engage with me and accept what I have to give them: encouragement and training. And they did.

SELF PRAISE IS NO RECOMMENDATION

Ding, the well-known cartoonist once remarked after someone said to him; "You must get a great deal of praise from all sides."

"No more than I need".

Which reminds me of someone very close to me who after practicing for months to render individually a very important part of a religious service in front of the congregation, felt he "nailed it"...only to be told by someone as he sat down, "you've got a lot of work to do".

So struck by that "review," it took him 34 years to try again.


When I work with managers, supervisors, business owners on staff issues: training, motivation, performance, goals, productivity etc...I begin with these types of questions:
  • What is your team doing well?
  • What positive skills are they demonstrating?
  • Are you acknowledging, reinforcing or rewarding on a constant basis good performance?
  • Are you creating an environment where they feel valued and part of the mission and success?
  • Then we move on.
I read an article by Keith Ready who says..."When someone does something well, applaud! You will make two people happy."

Mr. Ready actually remains behind when he and his wife go to the movies to watch and read the credits. They are always the only ones left, most having left before the credits even started. He says that "even though he does not applaud as he watches those movie credits, at least he is taking the time to recognize and pay his respects in a very small way to those talented and hardworking people...behind the camera who have given him his two hours of movie enjoyment."

YOU ARE WONDERFUL
A true story. It happened several years ago in the Paris opera house:

A famous singer had been contracted to sing, and the night of his concert found the house sold out. The feeling of excitement and anticipation was in the air as the house manager took the stage and announced, "Ladies and Gentlemen, thank you for your enthusiastic support. I regret to tell you that due to illness the man you came to hear will not be performing tonight. However, we have found a suitable substitute we hope will provide you with comparable entertainment." The crowd groaned in disappointment and failed to hear the stand-in's name. The environment turned from excitement to frustration.

The stand in gave the performance everything he had. When he finished there was nothing but uncomfortable silence...no applause. Suddenly from the balcony, a little boy stood and shouted, "Daddy, I think you are wonderful." The crowd broke into thunderous applause.

  
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When The Going Gets Tough...

5/30/2012

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"BUT WHO'S COUNTING?"
How many times have we heard this sarcastic expression...this expression that really means that we are keeping the exact score!
 
So here I am at my five-year-old grandson's Dynamo soccer game.
For those who don't know, at Dynamo Soccer, you root for the team ("Go Blue"), not the individual (not even my Grandson!!!). The score is not kept.

Should any of these kids ask about the score, the reply is "we don't keep score."

So I engage in a friendly debate with another parent on the sideline.

My friend thinks that "they're only five-year-olds, the score isn't important. Let them just learn to play the game and in a couple of years, when they are seven or eight, they can start keeping score."

I feel a little differently. "It's not realistic," I said. "They understand about winning and losing.  They see us in total stress and anxiety when the Steelers and Penguins lose (and utter shock if the Pirates win). Let's teach them how to play, which means teaching them how to win as well as teaching them how to lose." 

A great debate. Both sides have winning points! Whoops, I'll change that: Both side posit valid points. Whew!
 
THE GREAT RECORDER VS LOMBARDI
I spent nine summers at overnight camp as a camper and counselor. I spent nine years reading the following sign three times every day in the mess hall:
"When the great recorder comes to record against your name, He asks not who won or lost, but how you played the game."
However, I've also spent 49 years mulling over Vince Lombardi's legendary words:
"Winning isn't everything, it's the only thing."

Wow! This winning and losing stuff is intense!
 
SINATRA...AGAIN
As my man crooned it..."I've been up and down and over and out..." Me too.

I was delirious over Franco's Immaculate Reception.
I was there (no really, I was actually there) for Maz's historic home run in 1960.
I practically cried (in front of my kids) when Sid Bream slid home in the bottom of the 9th in the early 90's and cost the Pirates a trip to the World Series.
And Tim Tebow last year against the Steelers...I'll never get over it.
I don't want to predict the degree of my ourburst if my guy for Prez loses in November.

And personally:
When I was 10-years-old I lost a "do you want to be a sports announcer" contest that I knew I couldn't lose. Except for meals, I didn't leave my room for three days. 

Or the second grade spelling bee that still haunts me...when I was one of two finalists to take the crown and was given the word "bird," to which I excitedly responded, "B-R-I-D." 

And then, the worst. My grandson, again, having to hear an opposing five-year-old tell him that his team, Blue, "was really bad." I couldn't believe it. Trash talking, at the age of five. He cried and so did I (behind a tree).
 
So here we are, readers. Whether winning or losing, competition can be nauseating. 
 
It was a rough sea and a number of pallid individuals were leaning over the rail of an ocean liner. A man, walking on deck, stopped to sympathize with one very obviously sick person. "Stomach a bit weak, eh?" he inquired.

"Weak, nothin'," gasped the sufferer, "if you'll notice, I'm throwin' as far as any any of 'em."
 
So who's counting?
 
These issues come up often in the agenda's of my coaching clients.
"I didn't get the promotion."
"I didn't meet my goal."
"Why am I losing (not closing) sales?
 
We grapple with these issues.
My role is to act as the catalyst to help my clients uncover solutions, to achieve goals, to leap forward, to learn how to win and what to do when you lose. 

I do this with my seven grandchildren, too, as I pile up properties in Junior Monopoly or I get crushed at Sorry. Sometimes when I am The Hulk, I beat the brains out of Iron Man (my two-year-old grandson) and other times he is Spiderman and destroys me, Dr. Doom. Many times we talk about winning and losing, but always about being good people. 

When they are just a little older I'll tell them this gem:

Some time ago at the Seattle Special Olympics, nine contestants, all physically or mentally disabled assembled at the starting line for the 100 yard dash. At the gun, they all started out, not exactly in a dash, but a yearning to run the race to the finish and win. All,that is, except one boy who stumbled on the asphalt, tumbled over a couple of times and began to cry. The other 8 heard the boy cry. They slowed down and looked back. They all turned around and went back. Everyone of them.
 
One girl, with Down's Syndrome, bent down and kissed him and said, "this will make it better." All nine linked arms and walked across the finish line together. Everyone in the stadium stood, and the cheering went on for several minutes. People who were there are still telling the story. Why? Because deep down we know this: What matters in life is more than winning for ourselves. What matters in life is helping others win, even if it means slowing down and changing the course.
 
Go Blue...and Go Jonah!
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The Stumbles And Falls That Led Me To Success

5/22/2012

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I Could Have Been The Godfather!
That's right.

In the mid 70's, a very dear friend of mine who had parlayed his six-year NFL career and two Green Bay Packer Super Bowl rings into a small nest egg, asked my brother and me to be on the original Board of Directors of a start-up company he helped found. All that was required was a $1,000 investment and my/our assent. I thought about it, considered it, and refused "the offer I couldn't refuse." 

I simply did not think that a fast-food pizza joint could make it and passed up the opportunity to be one of the original founders and investors of Pizza Hut. Sigh...Oh my...Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda.

I sometimes think that I could have made Herman Cain an afterthought. (Actually, I think he already is.)

I admit that sometimes I do look back, but only to help me stay focused on looking ahead. I've learned to take risks, to take chances, to be innovative, to recognize opportunity...and to applaud it when I see it elsewhere. It all reminds me of a story that President Kennedy once told about a gardener who was once asked to plant a tree. The gardener objected that the tree was slow growing and would not bloom for a hundred years. Replied the owner of the estate, "In that case, there is no time to lose. Plant it this afternoon."

If You Build It, They Will Come
I learned my lesson before I saw the movie. It's ok to take a risk...if you think it through...if you do your own due diligence. I opened up an unconventional, "it-won't-work" coin laundromat. I initiated a "Ladies Day" at my less-than-desirably-located men's clothing store on a Monday before Christmas (my store was closed on all Mondays). Why would just women come to an ill-located area with limited parking to shop? 

Because they trusted us, because we had a Tuxedo-dressed doorman to walk them to their car, because we had wine and champagne, a handwriting analyst, a chair massage, a caricaturist, a latte coffee bar, a gift for every woman who came, and even a "Ladies Day" discount. That's why.

Save...By Spending More And Buying More
That's the new Costco slogan. And that's what we do, my wife and I. We spend more money there than at our usual trip to the grocery store by buying more than we need. Now there's a strategy. I've looked at those three unopened bottles of Heinz Ketchup in our pantry for six months now just waiting for their turn. I can almost hear them singing that famous Carly Simon song/commercial...ANTICIPATION.

Did we really think that people would pay in advance (way in advance, those same people pray) for "final expenses" or pay four dollars for a small amount of espresso mixed with a large amount of milk? (Give it a fancy name like "latte" and I sure do).

Yes.

It's all about creating memorable experiences, taking some risks and believing in yourself....and that's the agenda that many of my coaching clients bring to our sessions. We get actively engaged in these topics. Is there a fund raiser, anyone in sales, or someone who is interviewing or transitioning that shouldn't be armed with self-confidence, that shouldn't be willing to take a chance, or leave  a lasting and positive impression with their target?

No.

If only I would have had a Coach.

OK. I wouldn't be smelling the roses I smell every day now...but the aroma of the cheese and sauce and pepperoni. Hmmmmmm.

Which makes me think of the Professor:

A professor stood before his class of 20 senior organic biology students, about to hand out the final exam. "I know that you've worked hard in this course and that many of you are soon off to medical school. So that no one gets there QPA messed up because of excessive celebration this week, anyone who would like to opt out of this final today will receive a "B" for the course". With much rejoicing many students thanked the prof as they signed out on his offer and left. As the last taker left, the professor offered "one last chance" to those who remained. One more student rose up and took the offer. The professor then closed the door and took attendance of those students remaining.

"I'm glad to see you believe in yourself," he said. "You all have A's."

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What Sinatra Taught Me About Front-Line Employees

5/15/2012

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I love Sinatra. I listen to him when I run; my car radio button is glued to Seriously Sinatra; I watch his old TV appearances and reruns of his Vegas shows. I don't care if he is Johnny Fontaine in the Godfather, I love this guy. 

Here's the surprise, though. My favorite song of his isn't Fly Me To The Moon or Make It One For My Baby or any other of his hits. It's Here's To the Band. 

Why?
Because he acknowledges, he praises, he gives credit to his support team, the group that delivers his music. He's very clear about this when he belts out: "Here's to the band. I wouldn't have made it without them."

There's more than just a tune and lyrics here. There's a message:
It's not just about the CEO, the Executive Staff, the Management Team.
It's not just about the owners, the VPs and presidents.
It's not just about CFOs, the development staff, and the sales staff.
It's also about the clerks, the receptionists, the admin staff, the data processors, the entry level people. 

It's about the band. Often the key to our businesses' reputations are the front-line employees. They are the men and women who first greet our customers when they walk in the door, deliver the messages accurately when we return to the office, plug in the correct data to our spreadsheets.

Chicago...New York...South Of The Border
Wow! Can my man Frank sing about these places.

And do those places host Conferences for all the various impressive titles of the folks running these companies, corporations, businesses, and agencies? Yes indeedy. But not for the front-line employees.

I'm waiting for the CEO at a Fortune 500 Company to post this: 

ATTENTION SECRETARIES, RECEPTIONISTS AND CASHIERS 
3 DAY CONFERENCE IN ORLANDO...ALL EXPENSES PAID. 
LEARN HOW TO BE THE BEST AT WHAT YOU DO

And if you saw this posted, you'd say, no way...it's witchcraft.

This all works out just fine for me, though, because those conferences that will never be help me to keep my Coaching business quite active. I coach the admin, clerical, and entry level staffs of these companies on how to be better at these jobs of theirs, on how to get noticed. We work on phone skills: warmth, graciousness, politeness. We work on face to face skills: body language, tonality, vocabulary. We work on understanding, communicating and being enthusiastic about the mission of the corporation or agency they work for.

We're the band, fine tuning skills, keeping in sync with each other, orchestrating individually to bring it all together for the Chairman of the Board.

It Was A Very Good Year
You see, I have little doubt that it starts at the bottom, not the top. It starts with the front-line. They get the first call, the first complaint, the first question...hardly ever, the first compliment. They set the tone. They give the first impression, and sometimes the only impression. They can contribute very positively to that end of year statement or report. They can validate my core belief that all people are far greater than the job they do.

How High Can You Jump?
Fleas are trained by putting them in a cardboard box with a top on it. The fleas will jump and hit the top of the cardboard box repeatedly. Eventually they continue to jump, but not high enough to hit the top. (They ain't dumb.) When the lid is removed they continue to jump. But they will not jump out of the box. They won't because they can't. Why? Because they have conditioned themselves to jump so high and no higher. That's all they can do.

Many times people do the same thing. They become restricted, unmotivated, and never reach their potential, thinking they are doing all they can do. Complacency can be a career killer.

I gotta start coaching fleas.

Except, they'd get under my skin.

The Mission
A passerby stopped by a bunch of construction workers on the job site. As he walked around the construction he randomly asked 3 of them what they were building.

The first said he was laying bricks.
The second one said he was building a retaining wall.
The third one said he was building a cathedral where people will come to pray.

I can almost hear him saying to himself...I did it my way. 
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The Two Most Important Words To Your Business

5/8/2012

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Underwear and Gratitude: Get It?
My two-year-old grandson loves picking out his 5-year-old brother's underwear every morning. He lives for it. It's the first thing he does after waking up. And what does he do after that, absolutely unprompted? He says "thank you" to his bro...for that privilege.

Kids...will they ever quit teaching us!
 
For over 30 years whenever a customer of my former business picked up a garment from our tailor shop, there was a substantive, handwritten personal thank you note from that customer's salesman placed inside the pocket. Every time. Every customer. It became our literal and figurative signature.

Now, many years later, when I run in to many of those same customers, they remind me about the warmth and sense of loyalty that those notes evoked.

Upon consideration, I take back the two above words "every time." Of all people, I, the owner, forgot to write one for someone who had been shopping at my store for 20 some years and who must have received dozens of these notes (each one different). He actually called me a few days later when putting the garment on because he "noticed" the absence of the note. "Larry", he exclaimed, "have I done anything to not deserve your thank you note?"
 
$20.00 = $200 million
A young couple I know starting a savings account from wedding gift money. They are taking up a 1/2 hour of this banker's time trying to decide if this is "their bank." The banker carefully and thoroughly explains all available options. He's patient, he's attentive, he listens...all of this for a paltry $20,000 for a bank that has a couple of  hundred million on deposit. The couple decides to sign. The banker handwrites a beautiful thank you note praising them for being so deliberate with their decision making process and congratulates them on the birth of their new son. 

Why does he remember? Why does he care? Because he understands that trust is more important than the details. Because he is good.
 
I coach fundraisers, retailers and all service providers, and anyone in career transition or just beginning their search on the never stated enough importance of the words THANK YOU...or other ways of expressing gratitude. Some of this note writing stuff is pretty darn basic...nothing pre-printed, personally addressed, personal salutation. Then we get a bit deeper...noting something specific about the past conversation, an attention getting PS, and, for fundraisers, emitting joy, enthusiasm and emotion. In training sessions, I have devoted up to an hour on this subject.
 
The Rabbi And The Toll-Taker
A few years ago, an extremely respected and affluent owner of a chain of stores in our community was asked to be the commencement speaker at a local university. He shared this personal experience:

Years earlier, he (we'll call him Mr. David) was in a car-ride discussion with his Rabbi about getting deeper into the religious part of his faith. The eager learner was driving and just shortly after he paid a toll taker, the rabbi said, "before you go any deeper into this study of our faith, you must learn the two most important words in any faith, 'thank you.' You did not thank that toll taker, who is a hard working human being!" Lesson learned, filed away, moving on.
 
Mr. David goes on with his graduation speech by relating that for the past few months he has been traveling often between Pittsburgh and Ohio as his new prototype "super store" is getting ready to open. On Grand Opening Day he addresses the staff and customers just before cutting the ribbon. After his eloquent welcome speech a woman approaches him and tells him what a"remarkable, kind, caring and deeply sensitive" man he is. Mr. David responds, embarrassingly,  "do I know you... how do you know me so well  to say such flattering things to me?" She responds by saying that "for the past many months I have been the toll taker you pay on the Turnpike. Every time you pay me you say "thank you" to me. No one does that. Clearly this is evidence of your unmatched character." 

WOW!
 
Two words: "thank you." They convey appreciation, respect and gratitude.
The message is in the details. That's my role.
 
A little girl approached a great concert violinist after his performance and asked him for his autograph. "I'm sorry", said the maestro, "but my hands are too tired from playing."

"My hands are tired, too,", said the little girl, "and they're tired from applauding."
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Back to the Basics: How An Attentive Ear Can Go A Long Way

5/1/2012

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Mind Your Own Business
I coach retailers and all sorts of service providers: doctors, lawyers, and sales clerks. The common struggle with all is that they forget their 101 classes, i.e. how to get an easy add on sale, how to "capture" a client, how to get customers excited enough to brag about their experience. 

Stamps and Eye Brows...So What!
I am standing in a long line at arguably the worst post office in Pittsburgh.

I mean these workers have been there for years and still don't know how to smile, be polite, or even pretend to care.

But I got a break. It's April 17th and taxes are due; thus, the long line, and I got an "extra" taking care of me. She smiles, she's conversational, she 's helpful. And after placing my package in the Out bin, she politely asked me, "Mr. Rubin, (she actually took note of my name on my credit card) do you need any stamps today?"

I thought about it. And I realized I did need stamps today. So I bought a roll. And she said "thank you."

Wow! I asked her if I could compliment her to her supervisor, whose picture may have been on the wall under "missing persons."

I am getting my 3 week "buzz" haircut at a large chain that I always go to. I'm known as "8-minute-Larry" (which should give you a hint about how much hair I don't have). I'm always in a hurry; I'm in and I'm out.

The last time my scalp needed a stylist was somewhere around the time I got my driver's license. But this new staff member, who randomly gets me, makes me stay two minutes longer (I began by despising him for attempting to make me remain in this momentary prison longer than normal) by trimming my eye brows and the obvious social-security-eligible hair now growing around my ears as well as the follicle or two that has suddenly regenerated on my naked scalp.

Guess what? I like this guy, Rob.

I'm going back there only when he is there...and I'm going to continue to generously tip him.

It's About Personal Care, Stupid!
I was a month away from opening up a high end coffee shop, high end in motif, quality of product, staff. I needed a take-charge, "I-know-what-to-do" manager. I found him at last at one of local Starbucks.  I didn't need an interview or references because on that particular Monday, as he made me my regular drink (without asking me what it was) he says to me, "Larry, how was your week-end in Cleveland with your kids and grandchildren?" I reply, "Jason, how did you even remember my name let alone where I was this weekend?" Says Jason, how can I not know your name? You come in here at least three times a week and you told me last week how you were spending your weekend." 

Hey, valued readers, do you get it! This guy Jason…he listens. He remembers. He's hired (no matter what his salary requirements are) and he's still with us 6 years later.

Someone else once said: you have two ears and one mouth. Use them in that ratio.

OFFICE DEPOT & TRADER JOE'S vs. wal-mart
Yea, one is smaller than the other two. But ask someone at Wal-Mart (if you ever find an employee) where you can find a certain item and their finger will do the walkin'. Ask someone at Office Depot or Trader Joe's and they'll take you. I, and many others, will gladly pay the extra 7 cents, if that, for the item.
  
So, it is about the basics, the foundation.

Cheryl, one of the fundraisers I coach got it.

After a relationship-building meeting with a donor, she recorded that this donor was a fan of John Grisham novels. A month later she e-mailed him that she noticed Grisham's latest was on the Barnes & Noble shelves. This donor of large bucks was astounded and bragged about the very person who solicited him.

The lesson here: listen, remember and record. Remembering the dog's name or the client's anniversary  can pay huge dividends...but that's basic, right? I know you know this already. It's intuitive. But maybe it's time to refresh, or add to your skill set. Maybe it's time to relight the fire, get back the passion and exhilaration... And then charge forward. Coaching can help you do that. I can help you do that.

So here's to Rob, Jason, Cheryl, the U.S. postal worker, Trader Joe's and Office Depot. And here's to  Ralph Waldo Emerson who said: "nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm."

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How To Be A Better Employer

4/24/2012

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Did you hear the one about the wealthy investor who walked into a bank and said to the bank manager, "I would like to speak with John Mervis, whom I have heard is a tried and trusted employee of yours."

The banker said, "Yes, he certainly was trusted. And he will be tried as soon as we catch him."

Ah!  Employees...you can't live with 'em and you can't survive without 'em. But today's blog is dedicated to them, because I would have never made it this far without them.

Accentuating the Negative
It is a centuries old custom to dwell on the negative and not the positive. It's so easy to remember his lost sale, her poor presentation, the times they were late. But what about those high volume years, those fantastic presentations, the many months of being early, and the many years of being on time?! Don't they count?

The Night of the Round Table
Participating in a round table discussion one evening at a conference, I heard these comments about employees from fellow business owners: "I can't stand when they ignore job descriptions" and "Doesn't it piss you off when they try to prove everyone wrong?"

And then I listened to Jeff Haden, ghostwriter and columnist for CBSMoneyWatch.com, respond that two of his eight Qualities of Remarkable Employees are:

a) They ignore job descriptions. As he says, "How important it is that employees think on their feet, adapt to shifting priorities, do whatever it takes, regardless of position, to get things done....and being told there's a problem and jumping in without being asked---even if it's not their job.”

b) They like to prove others wrong: "Self-motivation often springs from a desire to show that doubters are wrong. The kid without a college degree often possesses a burning desire to prove others wrong. Education, intelligence, talent and skill are important, but drive is critical. Remarkable employees are often driven by something deeper and more personal than just trying to do a good job."

An Employee Hall of Fame in Waiting
I'd love to see this.

My first 3 nominees

Craig...who despite the high price of gas, drives 45 miles one way, with no other clients in the vicinity, just to deliver 1 special order part his client wanted (not needed).  

Perry...who after the store was closed (lights out) was locked in and up on the 2nd floor (no keys, no power, no cell phone) kept right on working for 45 minutes until the security company, hearing noise inside, called the business owner.

Ken.....the stockboy, who having been told (not realizing the joke) that it was the turn of the business he worked for to clean the inside of the porta-john in the public parking lot across the street, dutifully and respectfully did his job...and did it well. 

What’s this have to do with life coaching?

Well some of the above characteristics are instinctive, but some are not. I do a lot of Coaching with people in job transition or acquisition. I Coach others in the workplace on how to develop stronger and more meaningful relationships in order to nourish what they have and to cultivate new. I work with many others with one specific agenda: to become the best employee they can be. It's your job, it's your career, it's your agenda, can I be your Coach?

The Whole World Came Together 
Barry, a recently hired, junior reporter for a newspaper was frustrated in not getting his editor's attention. He had the most important scoop of the day! His editor was behind the glass, around the table with his senior reporters prioritizing the day's leads with the deadline looming. The editor kept waving him off.

This most recently hired reporter waved his hands frantically and finally tapped on the glass to get noticed. He observed his editor making a call on his cell phone, and soon after his boss' secretary approaches the reporter with a page from yesterday's edition. It contained a full picture of the world. As she tore into many pieces she says to the reporter "Bruce (the editor) says that he needs a bit more time in there...as soon as you put this picture together, you can join the meeting.” Bruce was just trying to buy some time before having to deal with this pesky new guy.

Within minutes this new guy burst into the room with the world picture completely assembled and exclaims: "YOU"VE GOTTA LISTEN TO THIS STORY I'VE GOT!" The astonished editor's only excited response is "how the hell did you put that picture together so quickly?"

Barry responded that on the reverse side of the page was a picture of a little girl. "You see, sir, when I got the little girl together, the whole world came together."

Each of us has the responsibility to put our world together. It starts by putting ourselves, in this case, the employer, together. We can become better at anything. The first step is changing our attitude.

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Is Your Idea Made To Stick?

4/17/2012

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Buddy, Can You Spare Me A Dime?
I was walking in mid-town Manhattan awhile back and passed by a panhandler whose sign read: CAN YOU SPARE 50 DOLLARS? 

I actually stopped and exclaimed to him, "Do you really think someone is going to give you 50 dollars?" I will never forget his response. "Hey bud, you gotta start somewhere, and I got you to stop and begin a conversation."

Another lesson confirmed for me: If you're selling, presenting, or interviewing, the message is crystal clear: you gotta start somewhere, you gotta get their attention.

I’m reading a phenomenal book right now called Made To Stick by the Heath brothers. In it, they affirm that "The first problem of communication is getting people's attention." They go on to preach that "surprise gets our attention and interest keeps it."  And that helps me recall quite a few personal experiences and observations that validate this.

My Father Was A Schmuck
I listened to a revered Judge give a keynote address to large audience. His last name was Schmuck (not a flattering Jewish reference). The emcee when introducing him actually slurred over his name to avoid embarrassment. The judge surprised his audience when began his talk by saying "I am flattered by all the kind words just said about me, but let me make something very clear...my Grandfather was a Schmuck, my Father was a Schmuck, and for the rest of my life I will be a Schmuck, too."

Judge Schmuck had that audience from that moment on. He had their interest...their attention.

I love Southwest Airlines "Bags Fly Free" campaign. It is simple. It gets attention. It reaffirms Southwest Airlines message that they are the low cost airline.

And then there is the TV commercial for the new minivan Enclave which has Mom and Dad in the front seat, the kids in the seat behind, the all-American family in the all-American car: cupholders, GPS, sun roof, 150 radio stations. The family is on their way to play practice. Right when you expect the commercial to talk about the price or value of the car, a previously unseen car speeds through an intersection and broadsides it. All that you as the viewer hear is screaming. All you see it buckling metal and broken glass. What follows on screen is "Didn't see that coming? No one ever does...Buckle up, Always."

There is no such car as an Enclave.

The ad was created by the Ad Council.

What is going on here is real simplicity. Get their attention, then deliver your message.

I absolutely coach my clients to this mantra
Recently a client of mine got it when the person interviewing him started the interview with the trite question, "why do you want this job?" Said Josh, "Sir, I mean no disrespect to you or your question, but I presently have a job, I am seeking a career."

Now he had this man's attention and interest.

What About Me?
And then there is Effy, the son of one of my Long Term Care insurance clients. He burst into the room just as I had explained to his parents that having Long Term Care insurance would protect their retirement assets and life style by paying, if necessary, for the extraordinary high cost of an extended nursing home stay. He implored them: "What about me! If they don't buy this, I'll be the one changing their diapers!"

That, the unexpected, surprised his folks, got their attention and interest and sealed the deal...for me, him, and his Mom and Dad.

I coach clients during career transition and getting that first "job," I coach other clients to empower them to form strong relationships in order to grow their own client base. I help other clients discover how to attract positive attention and interest to their own businesses and congregations. This is what I do.

Which Leads Me To THE BRICK
A young and successful executive was going a bit too fast down a neighborhood street in his new Jaguar. Suddenly a brick smashed into the Jag's side door. He slammed on the brakes and backed up to the spot where the brick had been thrown. The angry driver jumped out, grabbed the nearest kid and screamed, "Why did you do that? Who are you? That's a new car and that brick you threw is going to cost a lot of money. WHY!"

The young boy was hysterical, crying and apologetic. "I didn't know what else to do", he pleaded. "I threw the brick because no one would stop!"

With tears dripping down his face and chin, the youth pointed to a boy sprawled on the ground next to a wheel chair.

"That's my brother, he said. "He rolled off the curb, fell out of his wheel chair and I can't lift him up", he sobbed. He's hurt so badly and he's too heavy for me.

Moved beyond words, the driver tried in vain to swallow the lump in his throat. He lifted the handicapped boy back into his wheelchair, and dabbed at his fresh cuts and scrapes with his linen handkerchief.

"Thank you" the grateful child told the stranger.

Too shook up for words, the man simply watched the boy push his wheelchair bound brother toward their home. As he slowly walked back to his considerably damaged Jaguar, he knew he would never repair the dented side door. That dent would remain there to remind him of this message: "Don't go through life so fast that someone has to throw a brick at you to get your attention!"

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The Easiest Way To Expand Your Business

4/11/2012

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Let me guess: you want more business.

No matter what industry you are in, it’s the universal axiom. Who doesn’t need more extremely precious and necessary customers? They are the users of our services and products, the supporters of our agencies and institutions. They are, make no mistake about it, our lifeblood.

So how do expand your business?

You, my readers, are smart, so I am willing to bet that you do precisely what you are supposed to do...what you have been taught and trained to do:

You advertise and implement a marketing plan; maybe you run print campaigns, maybe some radio, TV spots, or web ads; perhaps you’ve been using extensive direct mail campaigns or a monthly newsletter. You're e-mailing your customers, you’ve invested in a nifty web site, you're blogging, Linking In, and tweeting.

But you still haven't met your goals. Your business still needs growth.

The Secret Sales Weapon At Your Disposal
There is one tactic you can come back to over and over again. It’s so simple yet so often overlooked.

Ask for referrals.

It’s the one resource you have at your disposal and, if you have more than a handful of loyal supporters, you have countless ways of you disseminating your message.

How many times have you heard or read these words: A SATISFIED CUSTOMER IS YOUR BEST AD!

So, I’m here to give you the tough love you need: suck it up and do the following steps today! No more excuses, no more procrastinating. Do this today!

Prepare a list of your most loyal 15 clients that could serve as champions for your brand. Write down their e-mail addresses. If you do this and send 15 e-mails out today, you WILL get at least 4 responses within 24 hours. It’s tried, it’s tested, it works.

The Exact Script You Need
How to ask for recommendations for people to talk to. Sometimes the hardest step is sitting down and simply writing the "ask" e-mail. So I'm here to help you do it. 

You can use this exact script if you'd like, or tailor it to fit your needs. This script works.

Hey Joe,

Great seeing you at the game last week (something personal). Hope your practices continues to be busy.

You may recall that awhile back I mentioned that I was planning to expand my business.


Well, that time has come. As a loyal client of mine who understands the value of [description of your service/product], it would be quite helpful if you could introduce me to some like-minded friends, business associates, relatives or board members...anyone in your network who might benefit from having a brief conversation with me to find out more about (again, specifics). 

There are a couple of ways to move forward with introductions, and I can send an e-mail template if you'd like. You can customize it and e-mail it to your connections and copy me stating that I will be calling. You can assure each individual that this call is just about a conversation, with no (sales...solicitation...etc) pressure.

Joe, are you okay with this approach? 


-Larry


(If you need help with the second step, i.e. writing that customized template/e-mail that your connector can send to his/her contacts, that's a prime coaching-session topic.)

The Keys To A Great E-mail
Here’s why I LOVE using the e-mail above as a template.

I never, ever ever use the word referral. You don't want a referral. You want (as my friend and expert Sales Consultant John Rosso says) an INTRODUCTION. He explains that "even your most loyal donors are reluctant to make referrals, but to make an introduction, that's easy to agree to," especially if done through an e-mail from a client or existing donor to specific people in her existing and vast network.

An e-mail that introduces YOU and enables you to secure a face to face meeting with your now qualified warm prospect.  

E-mails should be brief and concise because people are busy and get bored – to be blunt – quite easily. Ask ONE pointed question so they know exactly what is expected of them.

As I've said before: the rest is in the details...necessary details...the details that you will identify and uncover through the Coaching process.

Obtaining these credible introductions turns cold calling in to warm calling, costs 0 dollars, and increases the odds of success much more than target marketing or the traditional methods of broadcast and print. Your existing base of gratified customers is the opportunity you have created by what you and your business or organization has done to secure such loyal support. You have developed this commitment...now use it, build upon it. Seize this opportunity you have made possible. Let me help you.

Write Those E-mails Today
You gotta love this letter:

Dear Optimist, Pessimist and Realist,
While you guys were busy arguing about the glass of water, I drank it!

Sincerely,
The Opportunist

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Cold Calls Aren't THAT BAD!

4/4/2012

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Let's talk sales...not the easy stuff like anticipating objections, giving choices, features, and benefits. Let's talk about something difficult: cold calling. (Next week it get's worse)

Come In Out Of The Cold 
Does anyone love cold calling? I've been there. It's the worst. IT STINKS!

What you want in this call is to ask for a face to face meeting, 20 minutes, to see if there is an alignment between your product or organization and your prospect. All you get is rejection, the end around run around, "she's on another call" or "he's in a meeting and unavailable now."

What you need is to get past the gatekeeper and on the phone with that CEO/VP/PRES/Manager.

What you should be saying to that gatekeeper, aka receptionist (once you have her name) is...

"Hey Joan, would you let Mr. Jacobson know that he has (your name) on the line holding" or "Hey Rick, would you let Mr. Jacobson know that he has (your name) from the Good Sport Foundation on the line and that I am not calling to ask him for a contribution."

The rest is in the details...good details. That's where coaching comes in to play. Together my clients and I discover the details.

Here's an example:

Sammy, a professional cartoonist moved to Australia. He's in a new country with no contacts and a bunch of unpaid bills. He knew that the folks he had to speak to were creative directors in ad agencies. He applied the "Hey Joan" technique, gets THE MAN on the line and says, "As an art director, Mr. Shaw, you often have crazy deadlines for certain ads. And sourcing the right photos and getting the shoot ready can be a nightmare. I'm a cartoonist...a good one...and I can show you how we've used cartoons in crazy deadline situations. I can show you how ad agencies have used them without losing impact. When can we meet for 20 minutes to see if I am a good fit for you?"

Breaking It Down
So here's what happened in sequence:

1. Sammy put forward a realistic and isolated problem.
2. He put forward a solution.
3. He killed the objection: :"How ad agencies have used them without losing impact."
4. He offered a case study or "social proof": ad agencies have used him before.
5. He made certain the next step was in place: a meeting.
6. He was very precise about the time: "20 minutes."

Sammy prepared.

Then Sammy prepared his prospect (soon to be his client) by being precise and void of hot air.

And he displayed enthusiasm, which is always contagious.

Coaching Works, Which Brings Me To The Elephant
Many many millions of Americans have never seen an elephant. That's why circuses keep coming back. That's why the same old elephant walks serenely confident that among every bored group of people who say, "that's just an elephant," some eager voice will shout, "Oh! THAT"S an elephant!"

And so when you talk your business you are not talking to a grandstand, but rather to a parade that is constantly moving with new faces - new buyers - coming into the picture every day.

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